WHAT IS LOVE?

 

The general point made by Helen Fisher in her work What Is Love is that there are three basic brain systems for mating and reproduction. More specifically, Fisher suggests that those three things are lust, romantic attraction, and attachment. She writes; “…that almost all types of human love- from love of god to maternal love to brotherly love to all of the other subtle varieties of human love- are variations of these three basic brain systems….”(p.334). In this passage, Fisher is suggesting that we need to be attracted to our mate, have to the desire to find that special someone, and finally to stay together for a long time. In conclusion, it is Fisher’s belief that romantic love comes naturally and is a universal experience.

In my view, Fisher is right because I have seen it happen in my life. For example, I had an aunt that I was very close to all throughout my life; she was always taking care of me until “he” came. It all started out with attraction towards him, she would talk about how gorgeous he was and other stuff that I found awkward when I was younger. Then she started saying that he was the one for her and that they are meant to be. Now they are happily married and they are both madly in love and plan to be married to each other for the rest of their lives. That is how I lost my favorite aunt, though I am very happy for her. Although Fisher might state that my aunt did fall in love and the three stages of lust, romantic attraction, and attachment. Therefore, I conclude that to fall in love the three stages must happen, it doesn’t have to happen in order but they have to happen sometime.